This post is part of the Difficult Conversations series. Start from the beginning [here].
We often jump to thinking about, ruminating, judging, or blaming the other party. But what we first need to do is to put that down. Yes, right there is fine. And take a look at ourselves.
What feelings are coming up when we broach this difficult topic? What story may we be telling ourselves? What are the facts? What is the real issue we want to address?
All in all – we need to take a deeper look at ourselves. And by doing this first, it makes it easier to act in alignment with what we truly want and value.
To do this, we need to…
- Feel our feels
- Recognize the type of story we are telling ourselves
- Check the facts
- Identify the real issue we want to address
Over the next three weeks, we’re going to do a deep dive into each of the above points.